Tuesday, September 30, 2014

How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows

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Marriage vows are incredibly personal and unique to the two people sharing them. These are the promises you and your soon-to-be-husband or wife will make to each other as you embark on your new life together. It's not something to be taken lightly.

Do not feel that you have to say your wedding vows in the perfect way, using the biggest and most impressive words. Do not be concerned about the audience of family and friends, and what they might think of your wedding vows. This is your commitment to your beloved. These are your thoughts, hopes and dreams for the future. However you choose to express your dedication to this partnership will be very much appreciated and cherished.

Should you share your wedding vows aloud at your wedding, or keep them private between you?

That is up to your and the person you plan to marry. I have attended weddings where the bride and groom exchanged vows before their family and friends, and it was incredibly touching and emotional. But you may not be a demonstrative pair; or, the idea of speaking out loud on your wedding day may be too much for you.

If you don't want to read your wedding vows aloud, that's perfectly okay. You can spend an evening discussing this with your husband or wife, and then take some time to write out your own promises to your partner, and share them together in private. This can be a very powerful way to solidify your commitment to each other prior to the wedding.

What if you're really struggling with the writing?

It's best to avoid copy and pasting some sappy or flowery wedding vow verbiage you may come across on the internet because you think it sounds good. Your wedding vows should come from your own heart. If you're having some trouble expressing yourself as you write them, you might start with a few questions to ponder, separately, and as a couple.

Thoughts to Meditate on as You Write Your Wedding Vows

What are your highest values as a person? How will those values shape your marriage and life together as a couple – and as parents one day?

What do you feel are your responsibilities to this partnership? What will you contribute?

In what ways do you complement your partner? How will you use your personal strengths to be more potent together and lead a more fulfilling life?

In the best of times, how will you show your partner that you cherish and love him or her? What will you do to enhance the wonder and magic of a beautiful life together?

How can you be of support to your partner? In the worst of times, how will you rise to the occasion?

In what ways can you grow and mature in and through this relationship? How will your partner's good qualities help to facilitate your personal growth?

What goals will you set together as a couple and as a family? What will you prioritize and make time for in your family life?

What ways can you bring love, understanding, positivity and healthy communication to your married life?

How will you share the hard work of being married, with your husband or wife?



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