Saturday, September 27, 2014

Throwing Rice at Weddings



Image courtesy of Copenhagenphotographer.com

The tradition of throwing rice at weddings is rumored to have its roots in pagan customs. Rice, as a grain, represents fertility, and the tossing of it at the newly-wed bride and groom traditionally means blessings of good luck, prosperity, and lots of children to help tend the land.

At some point word got around that grains of rice left behind would pose a health risk for birds who might eat it, so wedding well-wishers switched over to throwing bird seeds as a benevolent gesture toward our feathered friends. However, this theory has been disproved, as birds can consume either rice (grain) or bird seed, with no harm done. Still, for various other reasons, people continue to seek other options to the traditional rice-throwing. Rice scattered about on the sidewalk and pavement can pose a risk to wedding guests and other church goers who may slip and fall on it. Additionally, it is messy and annoying to clean up.

Thus, for many years brides and grooms have sought other, fun items to have guests rain upon them on their wedding day. Bubbles have been popular for a long time. Some throw confetti, rose or other flower petals; and, more recently for night weddings, people have started a custom of setting off sparklers to light the way for the newly married couple.

So, which will you choose: the traditional rice? The animal-friendly bird seed? Bubbles? Nuts, fruits and raisins aka trail mix? Flower petals? Confetti? Or perhaps something unique that symbolizes something special between the two of you.

Whatever you decide, be sure to ask the permission of the wedding venue or church where you intend to be married. And in keeping with the frugal theme of this blog, always look for a great deal on your bulk purchase!




Thursday, September 25, 2014

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Pocono Resort Wedding – Great, Affordable Idea for a Frugal NJ Bride



Photo of Erhardt's Waterfront Resort, Lake Wallenpaupack, PA
Courtesy of Amanda Meyer Photography
I attended a wedding last year for a NJ bride and groom who opted to get married in the Poconos. Their wedding venue of choice was all-inclusive, offering a ceremony and reception on the premises, open bar, catered food and music provided by the venue, and best of all, guests got to stay over in their on-site lodging. Or, at least I'm pretty sure that's what their wedding package was. The music was a DJ, so I assume that they didn't have to bring it in. But I could be wrong about that – best to check.

Anyway, this particular Pocono resort was located in Hawley, PA, although the name escapes me and nothing in my Google research is ringing a bell, either. Something with the word "Lodge" but I can't seem to remember the rest.

It took us about an hour and a half drive to get there from NJ, which I felt was reasonable and actually kind of a sweet little getaway. The place reminded me of "Kellerman's" from Dirty Dancing... kind of a humble and cozy feel, in a peaceful mountain setting, but also with the full amenities: comfortable rooms, swimming pool, shuffleboard, tennis, beautiful views and great food.

All in all, it was a great wedding weekend, and I suspect, considerably less pricey than some of the gargantuan NJ weddings you've probably attended.

To get a look at the choices for a Pocono Wedding that's close enough for your NJ, NY and PA guests to enjoy a mini weekend getaway, visit this link.

Another Great Wedding Song for First Dance - Somewhere Over the Rainbow

This one was in the running for our first dance as husband and wife. Our little boy always loved hearing it as a baby. Very sweet and touching!



Monday, September 22, 2014

Chocolate Fountain Passions Ignite for NJ Wedding Goers

My God, people, don't you know there are other, more fun ways
for newlyweds to get an endorphin rush?
The chocolate fountain... not really NJ Wedding on a Budget material, but hey. "Bargain" is subjective, and who am I to rain on the chocolate parade of New Jersey's biggest dessert fans?

New Jerseyans take their chocolate fountain rentals VERY seriously.
Image courtesy of ChocoFountain.com



Oh, my. This one makes me feel all tingly inside...
Image courtesy www.groundshakeruk.com
For all you people who surfed here actually looking for chocolate fountain rentals... okay, I will stop poking fun. You can find some here: http://conradsconcessions.com/chocolate-fountains/



More Inexpensive Wedding Venues in NJ and PA

This is Bella Giorno Catering in Belvidere, NJ. Little did I know that you
can have your wedding hosted right on the premises, with a lovely
outdoor setting that's perfect for pictures... and then party in a
 fabulous, indoor space. Amazing what you learn from the internet.
The lower-priced wedding venues seem to be in the more westerly part of this state. If you do opt to get married in Warren County or even eastern PA, remember that there are many picturesque spots along the Delaware and Pequest Rivers where you can have beautiful, scenic wedding photos taken.

I was just doing some more poking around trying to get an idea of what people pay for their weddings, and I came across a really informative thread. Seems that wedding hall per-plate prices run the gamut, depending on what part of NJ you live in, what's included in the wedding package, and so on.

On this thread, I saw a range of wedding prices from $49 pp all the way to $200 pp. Completely crazy, and an indicator that it really pays to shop around. Ask yourself: what do you want out of your wedding? Are things like 7-course tableside service, top shelf liquor, Venetian table, etc. really necessary to make this party great?

I like what one person on that wedding thread had to say about the whole situation:

"We don't have all the extra stuff as far as a Viennese Hr, or Wine tasting bar but we do have each other, family, food/alcohol and music!"

Some Western NJ wedding venues that may be worth looking into:

Belvidere Manor/Belvidere Firehouse - Belvidere, NJ
Never have attended a wedding here, but I know a girl who got married here and she reported it to be a blast - laid back, fun, affordable, no fuss, really great party. Everyone who attended said it was one of the best weddings they'd ever been to.

The Stroudsmoor Country Inn - Stroudsburg, PA - I went to a wedding here and thought it was really well done. A lovely, outdoor Pocono ceremony; nice cocktail hour and dinner, open bar, and spent the latter portion of the evening enjoying some wild karaoke at the after-hours bar. We didn't stay over but many guests did. Convenient, affordable, easy drive just over the Delaware from NJ, elegant, scenic, fun!

White Meadow Lake, Rockaway, NJ - I don't know much about this place, but the photo looks absolutely gorgeous.

Bella Giorno, Belvidere NJ. I have driven by this place for many years, thinking it was a catering facility and having no idea that they host weddings on the premises. Just saw a review from someone who was married here and said it was "fantastic." This is directly on the Pequest River, a very pretty area of Rt. 46 in Belvidere. Check out their photo gallery!