Saturday, February 1, 2014

Do It Yourself Wedding Almond Favors: What to Buy, How to Make



You may have heard of, or been the recipient of, the infamous little tulle bag of almonds as a wedding favor. Now you're the one getting married, and you're been thinking about doing the same – giving out almond favors to your guests. Here are a few facts about the symbolism behind the gift of 5 almonds, and some simple instructions on how to assemble the almond bags yourself.

Italians, Greeks, and other countries in the Mediterranean consider almonds to be a symbol of good luck on your wedding day. First, the taste of the almonds (bittersweet), is a symbol of life; and second, the candy coating is a wish for the happy couple's life together to be more sweet than bitter.

Traditionally, the almond bag contains five almonds, representing health, wealth, happiness, and longevity. Each guest receives one, wrapped in tulle and tied with a ribbon, and you may also wish to include a printed ribbon or little bit of paper with the bride and groom's name on it.

Preliminaries:

Figure out how many guests will be attending the wedding. Multiply that number by five, and that is the total number of almonds you'll need for the entire project. Of course, you won't know exactly how many guests until the very last leg of the wedding plans, so this is not a project that you can do too far in advance.

Select your colors. Of course, you'll want to match the decor and the bridesmaids dresses. Or, you can use white or off-white according to whichever hue your wedding dress is. You will be purchasing tulle and ribbon to coordinate with the abovementioned colors.

Determine the amount of tulle and ribbon you'll need. You may wish to consult with a fabric or craft store, hopefully they will be able to offer you a discount for your bulk order of each. The tulle should be cut into circles, each 6 to 8 inches in diameter, and the ribbon should be at least 12 to 16 inches long per favor.

Shop around. Research where to find candied almonds in bulk for the best price. You can find a supplier online (do a search for "Jordan almonds"), or check the Yellow Pages for a local gourmet candy supplier.

Time to Make Your Wedding Almond Bags:

Purchase your almonds a few weeks before the wedding. The candies will still be fresh on the big day, so no worries there.

Cut out tulle circles. Use a small plate (like a lunch plate – can be paper) to trace the circle on a piece of the tulle fabric. Cut it out with sewing scissors and put it aside. Do this for the total number of guests. Hopefully you'll have some helping hands such as the mother of the bride and/or groom, the bridesmaids, or other friends who will be attending the wedding, to help make light work of this project!

Tie up each almond bag. Once you have all of your tulle circles laid out, break out your candy-coated almonds. You will need five almonds per circle. Place your little nest of almonds in the circle and tie it up with the ribbon which you can cut on the fly as you go. If you have also ordered little bride-and-groom name tags, add those as well.

Repeat this process for however many guests you expect at your wedding.

Store them and arrange for transport. Store all the almond favors in a couple of weather-proof boxes with lids (plastic is good), and make sure that someone remembers to transport them to the wedding hall on the morning of the big event. You also want to be sure someone can take the time to place each one beside every plate at each table. The wedding hall coordinator may be able to advise whether someone on their staff can be tasked with this project, and whether or not it is included in the total cost of the wedding.

That's it – don't forget to save a little bag of almonds for yourself and your husband!




Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Wedding Songs – Mother-Son Dance



Wondering what song to choose for the groom's Mother and Son dance? Whether you're having a wedding band or DJ, the person in charge of music on the day of your wedding should be able to accommodate your selection. It is easy enough, even if a band isn't familiar with or has never played the wedding song in question, for them to learn it if given enough time in advance.

Another option is for the band to simply have a recording of the song on hand, with the original artist performing it. This works well particularly for those who have opted to use a wedding band and DJ combo in one.

The question now is: what to pick? Should the mother-and-son song be modern or classic? Sappy and slow, or upbeat with a touch of sentimental feeling? Here are my personal choices for the mother-son wedding dance. Note: many of these would work equally well for the father-daughter dance!

Feel free to add your own favorites in the comments section! If you are already married... what did the groom and his mother dance to on your wedding day?

Summer Wind – Frank Sinatra
Wonderful World – Louis Armstrong
Somewhere Over the Rainbow
In My Life – the Beatles
Simple Man – Lynyrd Skynyrd
Sunrise, Sunset from Fiddler on the Roof
Unforgettable – Nat King Cole
The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face – Roberta Flack
Through the Years – Kenny Rogers
Forever Young – Joan Baez

Monday, January 27, 2014

Do NOT Buy Your Wedding Tux from Jos. A. Bank

I have decided to publicly smite Jos. A. Bank after mailing them this complaint letter regarding the tux I had fitted for my 2-year-old who was in my brother's wedding party this fall, and not hearing back. To anyone thinking of using them for their groomsmen... RUN, don't walk, in the other direction! Furthermore... what kind of store name is Jos. A. Bank? They couldn't spring for the second half of the name on their sign? Some of my friends refer to them as "Jose Banks." Also, the lack of an 's' on the word Bank is confusing. Just saying. So, here's the letter.




Jos. A. Bank
P.O. Box 1000
Hampstead, MD 21074-4000


October 4, 2013


Dear Joseph A. Bank,

I am writing to express my dissatisfaction with the service I received at your store located at 100 Reaville Avenue, Flemington, NJ.

The store employees were pleasant and said all the right things. However, it was clear from my experience, that, behind the scenes, things were not going all that smoothly. In other words: even though I was given all the info up front and asked all the right questions by the sales people... the folks who were actually procuring the tuxedo for us did not seem to care about these details.

Let me explain further.

My 2-year-old-son was scheduled to be fitted for a tuxedo to be worn at my brother's wedding on Sept 14, 2013. We live in XXXXXXX, NJ and my mother-in-law (his babysitter) is located in XXXXXXX. So I determined that, based on this proximity with his babysitter, it would be wise to do all my pre-wedding shopping in Flemington (I, too, was in the wedding party). Thus, I opted to use your Flemington store location which is about 40 minutes from my home.

I called about a month in advance of the wedding date. I was told to bring my son there on the Tuesday prior to the wedding, so that they could measure him. On Tuesday, Sept 3, I called again to be sure they knew we were coming.

When I arrived at your store with my son, we were greeted warmly and enthusiastically by a male and female employee. I did not get their names, but this was probably around 3 p.m. They were extremely nice to my little boy, measured his neck, arms, legs, waistline, and feet to be sure he'd get the correct fit. At the end of the measuring, they gave him some candy, which was also very nice of them. My little boy had a great first-time at your store. However...

A day or two later, I received a call that my son's tuxedo was ready to be picked up. Now, mind you, I live 40 minutes away (more depending on traffic), and this is a little boy of two. So... battling traffic and a willful toddler at the same time is not my idea of fun. Anyway, we arrived there for the actual tux fitting, and lo and behold... the pants are swimming on him. Also, the sleeves of the jacket are much too long. It does not appear as though anyone has actually looked at the measurements which were written down. In fact, it seems as though someone has randomly selected a tuxedo that they figure will fit a 2-year-old.

I would also like to add that for the fitting, I was sort of left to my own devices. I actually had to ask someone to help me put the tux on my son and check the fit. Okay, on the one hand I'm happy that my privacy was respected in the dressing room. But on the other, an "If you need anything, give a holler" would have been nice, or how about "Once you get the tux on him, let us know and we'll have a sales rep check the fit." Perhaps your employees don't know a lot about getting a toddler dressed, but likewise I don't know anything about tuxedos. Either way, a little concern would have been nice.

The next 40-minute drive to and from your store was made I think on Thursday (2 days before the wedding), to pick up the smaller-sized pants and check to see if the sleeves had been altered. This time, I got there later in the day because when I called at around 11 a.m., they told me the suit wasn't ready so they'd call me back. Great. So I sat around waiting for most of the day, then made ready to battle rush-hour traffic with my little son in the car for yet another long ride there and back.

When I got there, no one was manning the desk at all, so I had to poke my head around and say, "Is anybody here?" before someone finally emerged from the back of the store. I was handed a small bag, which I then opened and inside was just one pair of pants. "Do you have the rest of the suit?" I asked. "Don't you have it already?" said the salesman. "No, it's been here for alterations."

I think at this point, the silver-haired man at the counter tells me that the suit was NOT altered even though it should have been?? I want to say that they forgot to shorten the sleeves. I apologize for being unclear on this, but remember that a lot goes on the week before a family wedding that both you and your son are part of the bridal party for. All I know is, I had to make yet another trip to your store because something wasn't the way it should have been.

Somewhere during all this, I realized that shoes were a necessary part of the presentation. I am not sure if I spoke to someone on the phone or in the store about this. Perhaps I wrongly assumed that the measuring of my son's feet would result in someone procuring a pair of shoes that were the right size. I know that they did measure his feet during the initial fitting.

Anyway, no one at the tux fitting had mentioned shoes, and I had left the store not even realizing they were in the bag because I was distracted with all of this unfamiliar business. So now, at home, I find the shoes in there, but they are two sizes too big. My son wears a six and these are an eight. So I call Jos. A Banks yet again.

I hate to say it, but I don't even remember now which day I was told to come back and get the correct-size shoes. Was it the day of the rehearsal dinner, which was Friday? Or was it Saturday, the actual wedding day? All I know is that I was at your store, attending to various mishaps related to the tuxedo fitting for my son for nearly every day of this week, and with everything else that goes on the week prior to a wedding, that I don't even know. And I should have written it down, but I didn't. Anyone who has ever raised a child will know how stressful life can be at the toddler phase.

If you look into your record of this purchase, you will see the Fedex bill from the day that the shoes were overnighted. Based on this, you can likely tell me which day I was told to come in for the shoes which should have been the right size from the get-go but were not, and which none of your employees thought to ask about.

In summary: NONE of this should have been happening so close to the wedding day! As far as I'm concerned, this is how the process should have played out:

Trip 1: Arrive at store, have tux measurements taken.
Trip 2: Return for complete fit of tuxedo and shoes.
Trip 3: Drop off tuxedo the Monday after the wedding.

THAT is ALL that I should have had to do, and yet this is far from what happened. I drove to and from your store no less than SIX times (including the day I dropped off the suit post-wedding). I am completely dissatisfied with the service based on this alone.

I will admit that some of this fiasco could have been avoided if I had been a more proactive customer. But I arrived not knowing the details of how to purchase and get a tuxedo fitted. I do not feel that I was given adequate help in this area, by the people who were assumed to be the experts – the people who get PAID to sell and fit tuxedos! And the fact that nobody "behind the scenes" was paying attention to the necessary details – like my son's measurements, the size of his feet, the number of pairs of pants in the bag... just absurd.

I would like a refund for the total of $96 plus tax that I paid for my son's tuxedo, plus any additional amount that you feel would be adequate compensation for the inconvenience this has caused in my life. I would also like to remind you that a lot of gas money was spent driving an hour and a half each way to and from your store every time "yet another issue" wasn't addressed.

Please send your mailed response to XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX. I can be reached by phone at XXX-XXX-XXXX.

I appreciate your kind and prompt attention to this matter.


Warm regards,


Name Withheld

5 Lies the Wedding Industry is Selling - from Huff Post

I caught this one via a link on Facebook, and thought it resonated nicely with my own, frugal mindset regarding weddings - where, in NJ in particular, they can be a bit over-the-top and beyond the budget. Check out "5 Lies the Wedding Industry is Selling" by Anne Almasy, below. 

5 Lies the Wedding Industry is Selling

I love weddings. Weddings are the soul of my work as a photographer. But they're also the foundation of a multi-billion dollar industry rife with questionable traditions and irrational expenses. Before you dive into wedding planning, here are five myths you need to identify -- and dismiss! -- the moment they show their ugly faces.

1.) It's the bride's day.
This is absurd for many reasons, not the least of which is the fact that many weddings don't even HAVE a bride. What if neither of you is a bride? What if both of you are brides? What if the word "bride" makes you want to punch babies? Whose day is it then?


Gender sensitivity aside, the notion that ONE person is the primary focus of the wedding day is ridiculous. Your wedding day belongs to both you and your partner, and to your loved ones who have gathered to celebrate. Don't be selfish. And don't let anyone put selfishness upon you, as if "it's MY day" is an honorable and precious sentiment. It's not. The only thing honorable and precious at a wedding is the love.........

Read the rest of this article by wedding photographer Anne Almasy, on Huffington Post.