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Marriage vows are incredibly personal and unique to the two
people sharing them. These are the promises you and your soon-to-be-husband or
wife will make to each other as you embark on your new life together. It's not
something to be taken lightly.
Do not feel that you have to say your wedding vows in the
perfect way, using the biggest and most impressive words. Do not be concerned
about the audience of family and friends, and what they might think of your
wedding vows. This is your commitment to your beloved. These are your thoughts,
hopes and dreams for the future. However you choose to express your dedication
to this partnership will be very much appreciated and cherished.
Should you share your wedding vows aloud at your wedding, or keep them private
between you?
That is up to your and the person you plan to marry. I have
attended weddings where the bride and groom exchanged vows before their family
and friends, and it was incredibly touching and emotional. But you may not be a
demonstrative pair; or, the idea of speaking out loud on your wedding day may
be too much for you.
If you don't want to read your wedding vows aloud, that's
perfectly okay. You can spend an evening discussing this with your husband or
wife, and then take some time to write out your own promises to your partner,
and share them together in private. This can be a very powerful way to solidify
your commitment to each other prior to the wedding.
What if you're really struggling with the writing?
It's best to avoid copy and pasting some sappy or flowery wedding
vow verbiage you may come across on the internet because you think it sounds
good. Your wedding vows should come from your own heart. If you're having some
trouble expressing yourself as you write them, you might start with a few
questions to ponder, separately, and as a couple.
Thoughts to Meditate on as You Write Your Wedding Vows
What are your highest values as a person? How will those
values shape your marriage and life together as a couple – and as parents one day?
What do you feel are your responsibilities to this
partnership? What will you contribute?
In what ways do you complement your partner? How will you
use your personal strengths to be more potent together and lead a more fulfilling
life?
In the best of times, how will you show your partner that
you cherish and love him or her? What will you do to enhance the wonder and
magic of a beautiful life together?
How can you be of support to your partner? In the worst of
times, how will you rise to the occasion?
In what ways can you grow and mature in and through this
relationship? How will your partner's good qualities help to facilitate your
personal growth?
What goals will you set together as a couple and as a
family? What will you prioritize and make time for in your family life?
What ways can you bring love, understanding, positivity and
healthy communication to your married life?
How will you share the hard work of being married, with your
husband or wife?
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